Spend any time with a 7 year old and you’ll enjoy a never ending series of whys and hows. Â Why does that happen? How does that work? Â Why can’t we do this? Â How can that be?
But somewhere around 13 or 14 years old, questions become things to be avoided. Â Nobody wants to raise their hand in class. Â Whether its the fear of being judged inadequate or a desire to appear omniscient, questions seem to fall by the wayside.
Surprisingly, this continues well into adulthood.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve given instructions and have been able to see the lack of understanding stamped across the other person’s face. Â When I ask, “does that make sense?” I invariably get a “sure” or a head shaking back and forth. Â I’ve been in rooms with some of the most fascinating people on the planet, and no one dares ask them any questions. Â If they do, the questions are usually either formalities or completely asinine. Â It’s mind blowing.
The most successful people I know have a million questions about nearly anything. Â Even things they aren’t, or aren’t yet, interested in. Â If they don’t know how something works, they want to know. Â If they can’t figure out why something operates the way it does, they want to. Â It doesn’t matter if they’re talking to the maintenance man or the CEO. Â Successful people are always curious about how and why things work.
It’s not hard. Â If nothing else, revert to your 7 year old self. Â Ask how and why.