Compared to What

It’s easy to convince yourself that you’re doing well if you compare yourself to your peers who are doing worse than you.  Unfortunately, this is a recipe for mediocracy.  Eventually, your self-induced laziness lets your peers catch up and then surpass you.

A better measuring stick is the friend who is doing better than you.  But long term, this still aims to low.

The best measuring stick is the person who as already accomplished everything you want.  Depending on your goals, that person may not even exist yet.

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Scammer’s Logic

Why do “Nigerian” scammers say they’re from Nigeria?  After all, if you were running a widely known scam, wouldn’t you vary the details so you had a better chance of fooling a wider audience?

Probably not.  In an interesting paper published by Microsoft Research, Cormac Herley argues that the ridiculous claims of receiving some African riches from a stranger on the internet actually helps the scammers.  Because only the most gullible people are likely to respond, the scammers waste as little time as possible on those least likely to be taken.

The entire paper is  pretty technical, but very interesting.

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Death of the Hobby

Hobbies used to exist as a way to entertain ourselves.  If you had some extra time, you collected stamps, or watched birds, or built ships in a bottle.  You sought out activities to stimulate your mind.  Hobbies were an essential part of life because the alternatives were limited.  If you wanted to numb yourself, your choices were basically alcohol or opiates.

Now, so many of us seek out ways to be entertained.  We have an endless supply of black tar television, internet, and all matter of stimuli that requires no effort from the viewer.  And of course, it’s so much easier to be entertained than it is to entertain yourself.  So we do.  And we get dumber.  But remember, hard work is never wasted.

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Hard Work Is Never Wasted

In school, a lot of kids ask “When will I ever need to know this?”  Why do I need to know how to solve for x?  Who cares whether Amenhotep or Ramesses ruled Egypt first?  When will I ever need to write in cursive?

Note that nobody ever says this about football, or band, or chess club, which are activities that, while entirely worthwhile, are nearly guaranteed to never be used after high school.

I’m not a teacher.  But, I would say to students: This is all brain practice.  You’re learning how to think and how to practice as much as you’re learning about any particular subject.  You’re learning discipline.  Do you really want lack the ability and persistence to figure out all the stuff we’ve already proven to be true?  How are you ever going to figure out something new, or whether something new might be true?

The scary part about life is that Einstein wasn’t inherently much smarter than you.  Bill Gates isn’t inherently much smarter.  The fabulous quotes and insights didn’t just fall out of their mouth, neatly packaged by their superior brains.  When people asked them tough questions, they were able to answer them so concisely because they spent years thinking about those questions.  That’s what it takes.

These people trained themselves to look at problems from as many possible angles as they can think of, and to do it quickly.  This comes from training.  It’s not a gift from the sky.

Contrary to what teenagers think, hard work is never wasted.  When you put in hard work, you either get some knowledge, a skill, or experience.  Whichever you get is invaluable.

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Freedom, Responsibility, and Child Rearing

The New Yorker asks why American kids lack the responsibility so evident in children of (some) other cultures.  The article concludes that an adolescence of parental fixing, making sure everything is perfect and the kid never fails, results in a lifetime of incompetence and entitlement.

Like so many things, we let ourselves be blinded by our feelings.  It feels bad to watch your beloved child fail and fall and cry and hurt.  It’s so much easier to swoop in and do it or fix it or make it perfect.  But it’s this exact behavior that prevents children from ever learning to be responsible.

If you don’t require them to be responsible from the beginning, you can’t bemoan the fact that they aren’t suddenly responsible when their 18th birthdays roll around.

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Technical Difficulties

We experienced some technical difficulties over the last week.  Everything appears to be fixed now, and we should be back on track with daily posts from here on out.

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Magic Bullets

From an ESPN piece on Ryan Lochte, who is looking to spoil Michael Phelps’ final Olympics next month:

“I’m not the most talented swimmer,” Lochte adds. “So I try to outwork everyone else.”

It’s Sunday. A day of rest. The others who train with Lochte at the University of Florida are at home relaxing before another 30-hour week in the pool. But like nearly every other Sunday for the past three years, Lochte is under the intensity-fueled watch of DeLancey, a former Strongman competitor. With DeLancey barking encouragement, Lochte flips tires, pulls chains, lifts metal logs and throws kegs with the hope that this summer, it will all make it easier to shove water out of his way.

“People are always looking for the magic bullet,” DeLancey says. “They want to find the fairy dust that will make them a world champion. But there is no fairy dust. The magic bullet is busting your ass. And nobody is willing to do that like this kid.”

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Good Point

The only Powerpoint advice you need, from Seth Godin, reproduced in part here, in case a meteor hits his server and this gem is lost forever:

Communication is about getting others to adopt your point of view, to help them understand why you’re excited (or sad, or optimistic or whatever else you are.)If all you want to do is create a file of facts and figures, then cancel the meeting and send in a report.

Champions must sell—to internal audiences and to the outside world.

If everyone in the room agreed with you, you wouldn’t need to do a presentation, would you? You could save a lot of time by printing out a one-page project report and delivering it to each person. No, the reason we do presentations is to make a point, to sell one or more ideas.

If you believe in your idea, sell it. Make your point as hard as you can and get what you came for. Your audience will thank you for it, because deep down, we all want to be sold.

Four Components To A Great Presentation
First, make yourself cue cards. Don’t put them on the screen. Put them in your hand. Now, you can use the cue cards you made to make sure you’re saying what you came to say.

Second, make slides that reinforce your words, not repeat them. Create slides that demonstrate, with emotional proof, that what you’re saying is true not just accurate.

Talking about pollution in Houston? Instead of giving me four bullet points of EPA data, why not read me the stats but show me a photo of a bunch of dead birds, some smog and even a diseased lung? This is cheating! It’s unfair! It works.

Third, create a written document. A leave-behind. Put in as many footnotes or details as you like. Then, when you start your presentation, tell the audience that you’re going to give them all the details of your presentation after it’s over, and they don’t have to write down everything you say. Remember, the presentation is to make an emotional sale. The document is the proof that helps the intellectuals in your audience accept the idea that you’ve sold them on emotionally.

IMPORTANT: Don’t hand out the written stuff at the beginning! If you do, people will read the memo while you’re talking and ignore you. Instead, your goal is to get them to sit back, trust you and take in the emotional and intellectual points of your presentation.

Fourth, create a feedback cycle. If your presentation is for a project approval, hand people a project approval form and get them to approve it, so there’s no ambiguity at all about what you’ve all agreed to.

The reason you give a presentation is to make a sale. So make it. Don’t leave without a “yes,” or at the very least, a commitment to a date or to future deliverables.

Bullets Are For the NRA
Here are the five rules you need to remember to create amazing Powerpoint presentations:

  1. No more than six words on a slide. EVER. There is no presentation so complex that this rule needs to be broken.
  2. No cheesy images. Use professional stock photo images.
  3. No dissolves, spins or other transitions.
  4. Sound effects can be used a few times per presentation, but never use the sound effects that are built in to the program. Instead, rip sounds and music from CDs and leverage the Proustian effect this can have. If people start bouncing up and down to the Grateful Dead, you’ve kept them from falling asleep, and you’ve reminded them that this isn’t a typical meeting you’re running.
  5. Don’t hand out print-outs of your slides. They don’t work without you there.
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On Character

In Britain, it’s a crime to display a sign that is “threatening or abusive or insulting” with the intent to provoke “distress”, even if that sign is displayed in your own window.  The local constabulary explained that citizens, “in the majority of cases”, can only face arrest if they refuse to take the sign down after being asked by the police.

From a “traditional” American perspective, the possibility of facing arrest for displaying a sign in your own window seems absurd, but, the Brits don’t have nearly the free-speech protections we enjoy.  Which is why an elderly pensioner was asked to remove an 8 1/2 x 11″ piece of paper emblazoned with “Religions are fairy stories for adults” from his window.

Rather than decry the British law’s continued descent into an Orwellian twighlight zone, the consistently fantastic Ken over at Popehat asks an even scarier question:

What is the character of a person who sees a sign like that in a pensioner’s window, and runs to the police to complain?

Could a person with such character stand up, against great odds, in the face of the the very casques that did affright the air at Agincourt? Could such a person do his duty, as England expected, at Trafalgar? Could such a person keep calm and carry on? Would such a person fight on beaches, on landing grounds, in fields and streets, in the hills, and never surrender? Is such a person capable of having a finest hour?

I ask because of this: societies that make rules like this one, encouraging its citizens to scamper mewling behind the skirts of the government when faced with the least offense, produce people with the character necessary to take them up on the offer. It is hard to imagine how a nation run by people of that character can endure — or at least, how it can endure as anyplace you’d want to live.

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Freedom

The free man owns himself. He can damage himself with either eating or drinking; he can ruin himself with gambling. If he does he is certainly a damn fool, and he might possibly be a damned soul; but if he may not, he is not a free man any more than a dog.

~G.K. Chesterton

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The $144,146,165 Button

Tiny changes can have massive results.

Need proof?  Three buttons in a cab can increase tips 220%.

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Perspective

It’s always important to remember that not everyone sees things the same way you do.  If they disagree, or understand, or don’t believe you, it’s not necessarily because they think you’re an idiot.

Wish I knew who to give credit for this Larson-esque cartoon.  If you know, let me know.

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Possibilities

We have more tools available than ever before to accomplish whatever it is we want to accomplish.  And technology changes so fast that you can expect to have access to tools you might not have even dreamed of every few years.

Just think, just a couple years ago, videos like these simply couldn’t be made:

If you want to be creative, you need to be interested and observant of not only the things around you, but the tools available.  Most creative “genius” is simply figuring out how to use the tools that already exist in a new and interesting way.

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Creating An Ownership Experience

Apple stores are a paradox.  People love them, even though the service is awful.  Yes, the service is better than Best Buy and other big retailers, but it’s still awful.  So why are Apple stores far and away the highest grossing retail stores, per square foot?

Carmine Gallo, writing at Forbes, shares some insight:

The Apple Store was designed to create an ownership experience from the moment a customer walks through the door. When Steve Jobs gave a tour of the first Apple Store in 2001, he said that all computers were connected to the Internet. “You can go up to any computer and start surfing, go to your personal web site, or do whatever you want to do on the Internet.” The devices have changed but you can still walk up to any product in the store and start using it—read books on the iPad, discover apps on an iPod Touch, listen to music on an iPod, or play games on the new MacBook Pro. The ownership experience is more important than a sale.  . . .

Walk into a ‘big box’ retailer and you often find the opposite scenario. The devices are turned off and the screens are black. It should be no surprise that some of these retailers like Best Buy are in financial trouble and looking for ways to improve the customer experience.

Obviously this isn’t limited to shiny gadgets.  The puppy close has been around forever.  Apple and others have simply moved that experience from your home to their store.  The bigger challenge is to create an ownership experience with services or intangible goods like software.

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Sell Before You Build

Derek Sivers describes a marketing genius’ approach to writing:

Marketing guru Jay Abraham, in the pre-internet days, would run classified ads in newspapers and magazines. If he wanted to write a book about something, he’d run a classified ad, taking orders for the book, but he wouldn’t even write the book until he got a good response from the classified ad. If the world just didn’t seem to be responding to his book idea, he just refunded their deposit. But if an idea got a huge response, he’d say, “I better write that – fast!”

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